Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Spring Cleaning.

The song of the day is Mary J. Blige - Just Fine.

I love spring cleaning. Not the chemical, scrubbing, sweeping, and washing everything from top to bottom part. I enjoy the feeling of a fresh start. Getting rid of all the old and replacing with it something new and improved. 

Often times we carry around baggage that we can't rid of. For me, it's the past. No matter how spectacular my day is going SOMETHING from my past can ruin it. & it's no one's fault but mine. So as I'm packing up clothes that don't fit anymore, getting rid of that broken cup I adore, and online shopping for something new - I'm thinking about my life.

What memory can I throw away? After all, if I hold on to something from the past, where will all my new adventures be stored? 

To me, there is no better feeling than waking up to a spotless house. I feel relaxed and ready to take on the day without a long to-do list. Wouldn't it be wonderful to feel like this in my personal life, too? 

Today I'm going to get rid of EVERYTHING old. Shoes with holes, broken cat toys, and memories that serve me no purpose. I encourage you to do the same thing. We are in control of how much 'baggage' we carry around, so why not lighten up the load! 

QOTD: "Your past doesn't define you... let it go."

Friday, February 21, 2014

Giving up isn't an option ..

The song of the day is: Walking by Mary Mary. 

Getting diagnosed with Arthritis at any age stinks, but being 21 broke my heart. I haven't traveled yet, had kids, or been able to do anything extremely exciting. Part of me got depressed thinking about being in pain for the rest of my life. Looking on the bright side didn't seem possible, and for a few months I felt sorry for myself. 

Thanks to my family and friends that didn't last long though. I started reading blogs, stories, and testimonies about people living with Arthritis. Seeing everyday people living a normal life gave me hope. I also had to accept the fact that pain was inevitable. Reality set in, I formed a game plan, and now I'm here. 

Eating healthy, thinking positively, and doing only what I can has given me life. When I get flare ups I deal with them naturally. & even though not taking medicine makes the flares worse, knowing I'm adding years to my life makes it worth it. Not pushing my limits has helped too. I can't be superwoman, and I needed to stop comparing myself to the people in my life who are. (Okay, I'm still working on the comparing part..)

When I stopped living my life because of my pain - I didn't accomplish anything. Plus, the pain didn't go away. At least now I'm getting things done and living my life. & when something comes up that I can't do I've learned to ask for help or get creative!

There is something beautiful in not giving up. Fighting through difficult times builds strength & character. I'd like to believe that I'm a better person, wife, daughter, friend, etc. now than I was before. Like everyone always says .. you live and you learn.

Has there ever been a time in your life you wanted to give up? What made you keep going? How has it changed you?

QOTD: "We can only go up from here." 

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Ligh tskin vs Darkskin -__-

Hello loves! Since it is Black history month I decided this post, and the one to follow, will help our community greatly. The song of the day is one I've used before, but it fits perfectly ~ Gift of Acceptance - India.Arie. 

You see, ever since I was a little gal I would get remarks like "you're to light to be fully black" "your hair isn't nappy enough" and my favorite "if we were in slave times you'd be the masters girl." Didn't reading that make you want to shank someone? (Okay, maybe not shank.. but you get the picture.) 

The crazy part is, all those comments have come from black people. WHAT. IN. THE. WORLD!? Our culture has suffered enough hate, racism, and injustice to last us a lifetime, so WHY in the world are we doing it to ourselves!?

We always claim that other races think we all look a like, but from the comments I've received my entire life - so do we! 

Can we just get it together already!? Every skin tone, hair texture, eye color, freckle, and body shape shows the beauty of US. Being nasty and hateful towards each other just isn't right, and as long as I'm breathing I will speak against it! 

When you look at someone try to notice something OTHER than their skin color. Their smile, the way the laugh, or how lovely they look today. The shade of someone's skin should not be the center of conversation. & if it is, the conversation should change. 

QOTD: Racism is man's gravest threat to man - the maximum of hatred for a minimum reason. 
Abraham Heschel. 

Monday, February 17, 2014

I'm BACK!!!!!!!!

Good morning/afternoon loves! After a long hiatus ... I'm back! So much has happened since my last post in July. I've grown mentally, changed physically, and learned how to rely on myself. So before I go into my 'journey' - the song of the day is India.Arie ~ Get it together. I HIGHLY suggest you listen to it.

August 2013 I was officially diagnosed with Osteoarthritis. Following my diagnosis I started a new medicine regimen, and signed up for two procedures. An epidural, and if that didn't work, a nerve block. The epidural came in October, and well, it only made things worse. The pain after was pretty much unbearable, and the following months became even more difficult than before I got that stupid shot. Next up was the nerve block, and that came after Christmas - lets just say four shots in your neck will make you reconsider your entire life. & that's exactly what I did. 

Between hair loss from my new medicine, and constantly going to the doctors only to be told I need more procedures - something HAD to give.. and it did! With some help from my family, friends, and random people I found on instagram, I learned to rely on food for my medicine, working out for my arthritis, and prayers/inspirational reading for my peace of mind.

The more active I am, the better I feel. Flare ups are happening less and less, but when they happen, I rely on natural remedies to help instead of popping a pill. The nutribullet has also been a life savor. Adding all the anti-inflammatory foods into one smoothie is seriously life changing. Like seriously .. why didn't any of my 'doctors' mention it before!? 

Back in July I started walking. Since then I've lost some weight, and went down some pant sizes (I can't say how much because I'm trying to surprise the hubs at homecoming.) Now when I look in the mirror I see a strong, determined, needle in the neck warrior! 

Feeling better than I have in years I felt like it was time to blog again. After all, my readers are the reason I started walking in the first place! My journey has inspired me to try and inspire other people. Suffering from arthritis or not, we all need a pick-me-up sometimes. I found mine through various blogs, so I'm hoping to 'pay it forward' with mine! 

Thank you for understanding my time away, and I hope my newly refreshed mentality keeps you entertained ;) 

Have an amazing day everyone! 

QOTD: You only live once. But if you do it right. Once is enough. <3

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Flower child.

Good morning loves. The song of the day is: Steppin' Into Heaven- R.Kelly.

I don't know about you, but I'm over turning on the news & hearing about someone being murdered, robbed, or countries going crazy. When I see how horrible the world is; I can't help but think - what would life be like without violence? If everyone just loved, accepted, and cared about everyone.. how cool would that be?

Granted a lot of people would be out of jobs, but it'd be worth it. Parents burying their kids, innocent children getting killed in the cross fire, this mess with Syria, & not to mention the war we're already fighting. Truthfully, I almost can't remember what life was like before the war started.

It's almost terrifying to have kids. I know all these things happened before I was born, but there wasn't all this technology back then either. Every day I pray for world peace, and I truly believe we can do better.

I'm leaving you with this ~ do you do anything to contribute to having a better life? I asked myself this question & was disappointed with my answer, will you be also?

--> QOTD: "Be the change you want to see in the world." 


Monday, September 2, 2013

Motivational Monday!

Hello love! The song of the day is: India.Arie - Long Goodbye.

Even though the song is talking about saying goodbye to a loved one.. this post is about saying goodbye to negative thoughts. 

My get fit journey is teaching me that you can be the person you've always wanted to be - it just takes work. & along with getting my body in shape; I'm also working out my mind. Reading lots of books & practicing positive changes. 

But when those bad days come, negative thoughts follow. The "your fat" or "you'll never look/feel like that." Then I turn to junk food, I mean hey - I look horrible.. eating something (insert yummy sweet treat here) bad can't hurt, right? WRONG. 

This is where the positive changes kick in. Lately when I get down, I look up weight loss stories or write in my journal. Being honest with myself has helped me handle bad days, and appreciate the good ones.

If you think you're the healthiest, happiest, luckiest person in the world.. you'll live like it. Going into the evening; think about something you beat yourself up about. Is it worth the negative energy? You'll more than likely see that it's not.

--> QOTD: "What you think you create, what you feel you attract, what you imagine you become."

Oh!!!!! I FINALLY hit my 3 mile mark, & now I'm going to focus on my time!! <3

Saturday, August 31, 2013

Leave the past, in the past.

Hello loves! The song of the day is: Gonna Be a Lovely Day ~ Kirk Franklin.

To many times we are judged by the choices we've made in our past. I know I can think of a story or two that I could never tell my mama ;) But seriously, somehow our past manages always finds a way to haunt us. 

The fact is we aren't perfect, & neither is the person judging us. You've made it this far - you MUST be doing something right. 

We have to remind ourselves that our past is behind us for a reason. I've made mistakes, learned from them, and moved on. Shoot, if it wasn't for some of those mistakes; I wouldn't be where I am today.

Is there a situation or two that you can't help replaying in your head? If so, does beating yourself up about it help? I know it doesn't for me. 

Instead of staying up late thinking about what we did wrong - lets try to think about how we can do better in the future. That way we're replacing a negative with a positive, while admitting our mistake.

Btw, I hope everyone is sticking to their motivational Monday goal! <3 

--> QOTD: "Our past experiences help shape us into the person we are meant to be."